How to Deal With Offenses

How to Deal With Offenses

Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.  (Ps 32:1)

The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.  (Pro 19:11)

But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.  (Mat 6:15)

Some synonyms for the word OFFENSE are:  crime; wrongdoing; transgression; insult; affront; barb; attack; sin; or assault.

When we offend someone, whether intentionally or unintentionally, it is crucial for us to seek to understand how it happened, and to try to soothe and calm the situation.  This can only happen through the grace and wisdom of God.  The Lord will help us and support us with His guidance so that we may work through these situations.

Seek the Lord and pray for His wisdom and guidance in dealing with any offense that you have committed.  Ask the Lord to forgive you, and ask Him to give you wisdom, and also ask Him for divine favor with the person whom you have offended. 

Go to the person that you’ve offended and ask them to forgive you.  Be sincere in your apology, and remain contrite during any discussion so that the person may see that you are truly seeking reconciliation.  Try, as discreetly as possible, to understand what exactly gave offense because you seriously don’t want to repeat it.

If you are the person who is offended, think about what happened and determine what specifically made the exchange offensive or hurtful to you.  Take it to the Lord in prayer and ask Him to heal the wound and to give you His grace to forgive the person who offended you.  He is the Prince of Peace and will bring His peace to your situation and to the relationship if you will put it in His hands.

If the person asks to meet with you, agree to it.  When they ask you to forgive them, do it as unto the Lord.  If the person isn’t a Christian or doesn’t seek reconciliation, then it’s a matter best handled between you and the Lord.  You can forgive and release that person from their offense, and the Lord will see your heart and your sincerity.  He will bless you for your obedience to His Word.  (Ps 32:1; Pro 19:11; Mat 6:15)

We keep short accounts by reviewing the day’s events in the evening.  In a quiet time with the Lord, determine if there are any offenses that you committed and if any were committed against you.  Try to deal with them as quickly, Biblically, and wisely as possible. 

It’s vital that we live in such a way that we don’t give offense to others because in 1 Corinthians 10:32 and 2 Corinthians 6:3 we’re instructed to be inoffensive to all

Ears to Hear

Ears to Hear

The sower sows the word.  (Mark 4:14)

But others fell on good ground and yielded a crop:  some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.  He who has ears to hear, let him hear!  (Matt 13:8-9, emphasis added)

The phrase ears to hear explains the critical need for a teachable, hearing heart if the seed of Kingdom Truth is to be received and become fruitful in each one of our lives.

A teachable, hearing heart is one that is humble and contrite before God.  It’s receptive to the Lord and able to be corrected, so that a complete lifestyle change may result.  It values the Word of God above all else and desires to live in obedience to it.

You know your own heart!  You know if you will listen and receive correction, or if you will get offended and turn away from God.  Only you can make a change in your attitude, if you recognize that a change is necessary.  Only you can say, “Yes, Lord, I hear and obey.”  The choice is yours, alone.  Our loving God will give you the grace and strength to turn your heart around, if that is necessary. 

If you already have a teachable, hearing heart, then God rejoices over you!  He will continue to enable you to fulfill your calling here on earth. (1 Tim 1:12) 

It is by His grace that you are YOU!  (1 Cor 15:10)  Hurrah!