Grieving (Over Anything) Is a Process

Grieving (Over Anything) Is a Process

When tragic situations enter our lives, it’s vital for us to learn how to meet and grieve that loss. Grieving after a significant loss in a person’s life takes time.  The loss could be any one of a number of things: 

  • the death of a loved one;
  • the loss of financial security;
  • the loss of a relationship;
  • a lost career; or
  • losing a home, or any other kind of loss.

Grief is a process; and everyone grieves in different ways and heals in different ways.  So, no one can say how long it will take, or what it will look like. 

However, we can know that Jesus will be with us every step of the way for He has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”  (Heb 13:5)  He understands what we’re going through, and His love for us is constant and unwavering.

Since each person will experience the grieving process differently, it means that they will have different needs.  Loss is a painful but unavoidable part of life.  Even Jesus mourned.  (Joh 11:35; Mat 23:37-39)  Grieving (mourning) eventually takes a person to a place of acceptance and healing. 

Some people prefer to go through this process alone, and others need someone to come alongside them to assist them through it.  Whichever way works well for a person is the route that they should take. 

Since grief is a natural, human response to pain and loss, we must accept that it serves a purpose for good in our lives.  It does not displease the Lord, and there is no reason to feel ashamed of it, or to need to defend it to anyone.

Remember to receive comfort from the Scriptures and from the presence of the Lord; and to share what you’re experiencing with trusted friends and relatives.  The Lord is with you surrounding you with His love, peace, and presence.

How to Grieve After the Death of a Loved One

How to Grieve After the Death of a Loved One

These are some of the Bible characters who experienced loss and sorrow:  Job, Naomi, Hannah, and David.  We can see that grieving (mourning) is a normal human experience that comes to all people at some point in their lives.  There is nothing wrong with grief or mourning.

Grief can serve a purpose in that it can revitalize our assessment of life.   There is a boundary to grieving—after a season, it comes to an end.  Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.  (Ps 30:5)

One very important truth to remember is that God is always faithful, even in times of mourning. 

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.  (Ps 23:4)

You number my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle; are they not in Your book?  (Ps 56:8)

The Lord not only sees our tears, but He accumulates them!  He sees our tears and our grief, and does not disdain them.  Rather, He accompanies us in our grief.  He supports us with the knowledge that He is with us; He’s in control; He is praiseworthy; and that He will carry us through into a good place.

Be still, and know that I am God . . . (Ps 46:10a)

It is good to give thanks to the Lord, and to sing praises to Your name, O Most High; to declare Your lovingkindness in the morning, and Your faithfulness every night . . . (Ps 91:1-2) 

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.  (Rom 8:28)

Thankfully, the Lord is strong and He desires to carry our burdens, including this very heavy one.  (Mat 11:30) 

In the grieving process, it’s vital to communicate our grief to the Lord.  Feel free to pour out your heart to Him.  We can see this happening in various Psalms.  (Psalm 13; 23:4; 30:11-12; 56)  Note that the psalmist frequently ends in a different emotional state than when he began—often by praising God.  God hears us, and He understands what we’re going through.

You know my sitting down and my rising up; You understand my thought afar off.  (Ps 139:2)

As we share ourselves with the Lord, we’re able to open our minds to His truths.  We come to sense His love, His faithfulness, and His comfort.  As we turn to the Lord and communicate with Him, His peace settles within us.

Another way in which we can help ourselves as we mourn, is to speak with trusted friends, church members, and relatives about our pain and loss.  Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.  (Gal 6:2)  We, as members of the body of Christ, know that we’re called to “weep with those who weep.”  (Rom 12:15b)  As we share our stories with the Lord and with loved ones, we can actually lessen our grief.

The Lord is the One who is the anchor of our souls (Heb 6:19), and He cares for us.  (1 Pet 5:7)  He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.  (Heb 13:8)  So we KNOW that because the Lord never leaves us, He will forever be our anchor, our beloved, and our security—into eternity.  God bless you.